Can two 13 yr olds be the flower girl and ring bearer at a wedding or is that TOO LAME!?
Becky, may I give you an advice? Though I might be wrong, as I don't live in US and I don't really know all your customs... I read the additional details you posted. You wrote there you would ask his mother nicely. I don't think you should ask her at all, I think it is up to her to ask anything if she wants to. Of course, if she starts such a conversation, you can tell her your suggestions, but I don't think you should start or ask anything, because if she had some other plans, you could create an uncomfortable situation for her and maybe for you, too. Anyway, I think your support to that lady is very nice and I believe THAT is the thing you should talk to her about. I am sure she would be glad to hear it. So, give her support and tell her (if you haven't done such a thing already) how happy and exciting you are because of her wedding. Besides, she might mention something about your role at her wedding at that occasion :)
P.S. Don't be surprised or disappointed if she doesn't mention anything at all, there is still plenty of time until June and she obviously doesn't rush, which is actually a wise thing to do. Be patient, you will come to this sooner or later :)
Reply:that's like having preteens celebrate their birthdays at chuckie-cheese's
Reply:no it's not lame but for the love of god don't put the boy in a purple tux. that would just be scary.
Reply:I think it's a great idea. My dad is a retired minister and had to deal with little kids because people thought it was so "cute." Resulting in the flower girl peeing up in the chancel, one of them throwing up or one of them passing out. Dressing up wee little kids for a ceremony--especially in hot weather--just isn't the best idea anybody ever came up with.
Reply:he should be a grooms man and you a bridesmaid and he can take the rings with him but a flower girl needs to be younger.
Reply:I think it is a WONDERFUL idea. This way, they are both old enough to walk by themselves and will look so cute together. I had 2 and 3 year olds for mine, they were cute at first, but when the flower girl threw her basket down in the middle of the isle, and started screaming, I didn't think that was cute at all. I think you made a wise decision and will never regret it! Good Luck!
Reply:Yeah Kinda,
But he could give his mom away, thats super Hot and Kewl
You could just be a Brides maid and walk solo
Behind them.
You would stand out and its still respectfull
Suggest this to his mom and see what she says.
After all its NOT your Day its Her Day
Its all up to her.
So please try not to make Chaos, hust do things her way and let her have all the Ideas, and agree with all of her choices.
That will make her love you and make her happy
and seeing her happy and loving you will make your boyfriend
Happy.
And that will deffinately make you happy
Reply:General concenses has the boy not wearing lavendar or shorts, having you and the young stud called junior bridesmaid and junior groomsman, and some serious advise not to try to inject your intentions in his mom's wedding.
Best advise is to suggest to his mom that you and her son would be willing to be part of the wedding. After the wedding, you and your boyfriend can dance up a storm at the reception and have all the old people tell you how cute you two looked in the ceremony. Then, later, if you and your boyfriend can find a private place away from all the people at the reception, you could compare notes on how many dances you had to do with the old people and how many kisses you had to give because they complimented on how cute you two were together. And then, if you are really serious about seeing your 13 year old boyfriend in lavendar, surprise him with a gift he won't be able to refuse, a pair of lavendar silk boxers and the offer to help him put them on. And don't forget the 3-pack of Trojans.
Reply:do what makes you happy
Reply:UMMMMMMMMMMMMmmmmmmmmmm... please no lavender boy shorts.. That could ruin that boy's life forever. 13 is kinda too old to be a flower girl or ring bearer. Junior bridesmaid or junior groomsman.
Reply:Confusting
Ok your boyfriends mom or your momis getting married and you have decided to be flower girl and he is going to be ring bearer
whose idea was this.
if it was potential flower girl, noooo not your wedding.
If it is the mom who is getting married what if they break up next week or year. Really its a bit cutesy.
Reply:my flower girl was 15 years old, since I had no young friends or relatives, she said she would. If its an adult reception, its a good idea to try and limit the young children anyway
Reply:Hey if the Bride and Groom go for ,go for it
Reply:It is kind of corny.
Reply:I would say if your choice for ring bearer and flower girl are over 5...then do not have ring bearer and flower girl. Have a jr bride and a jr groom. They are pretty much the same thing...except they dress like the Bride/groom and walk down together instead of seperately.
No offense, but the short pants thing will scar him for life. Just do a regular pants.
Reply:Okay. I am 27 and getting married in April. I am having my 12 year old cousin be the flower girl and asked her 12 year old twin brother to be ring bearer but he doesn't want to because its only an adult only wedding. i don't' see a problem at all but do not make him wear shorts. i would just have him rent a black tux like the groom and you'll be fine. And enjoy yourself though its her day you and he can act like its yours!
Reply:Not lame.
Reply:No, but go traditional with the outfits. It is not your day it is his moms.
Reply:Ok , its a little corny , but still cute, though i would reserve this for smaller kids.
Reply:My flower girl was 13. All it really meant was the she wore a different style dress than the bridesmaids and carried a basket of flowers instead of a bouquet.
Reply:A BRIDE CAN CHOOSE WHO EVER SHE WANTS TO BE IN HER WEDDING !!!
IT HER WEDDING AND IT'S HER CHOICE !!!
RESPECT IT !!!
Reply:DORKY. There isn't another word for it. You guys would be the laughing stock of that wedding.
Reply:lavender? come on! surely you can come up with a better 'question' than this......this one is pretty phony.
Reply:your day u do what makes u happy, don't let any one tell u any different
Reply:First of all, NO 13 year old boy is going to want to wear lavender. EVER.
Second, you're TOO OLD! If you want to be in the wedding, you need to be jr. bridesmaid/jr. groomsman.
Third, it's highly inappropriate for ANYONE to wear SHORTS to a wedding. I don't care how cute YOU think his legs are.
Besides, isn't this his MOM'S wedding? What right do YOU have to plan ANY of this? This is HER special day. All of the plans are up to HER. Do you even know if SHE LIKES LAVENDER? Because let me tell you something, honey, a lot of people DON'T, even if it is YOUR favorite color. Save the lavender for YOUR wedding if you love it that much.
You can ask to be in the wedding, but you also need to consider the fact that you're ONLY 13 years old, and tomorrow you may meet some boy that you think is hotter. By the time his mom gets married in June, you may have moved on to a new guy. And then it's gonna be pretty weird for you to be in his mom's wedding, now isn't it?
You can report me if you want, because I KNOW you're going to think that I'm being mean and unfair. But everything I've said is the truth. And the truth hurts sometimes. And life is NEVER fair.
Reply:13 is techincally a little old - by that age, you would generally have them as junior bridesmaid/ring bearers. Of course - there is no set rule saying you can't have 13 year old flower girl/ring bearers. My flower girl was my 11 year old baby sister, and while it looked a little different, it was important to me to have her there.
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