Do you think the decorations at a wedding could subconsciously affect your marriage?

I know people like flowers, music and stuff at their wedding but could the decorations and music show what kind of marriage it will be? An example would be my brother's wedding. It has heavy metal music, rap, and their rings are silver with a spinning band with black streaks. They fight all the time. Do you think this is a possibility?
Do you think the decorations at a wedding could subconsciously affect your marriage?
I think people are to concerned about impressing everyone with there weddings. When the most imprtant thing is the marriage. If everyone worked as hard as they do on there marriage as they do on there weddings there wouldn't be so much divorce.
Reply:Of course not!!



I have a cousin who's wedding was the "opposite" from yours brother, all very traditional, pink, sweet, coordinated, very romantic, her fiance helped, visited family with her delivering the invitations, very charming and involved.



Less than a year after she was filling for divorce because he spanked her all the time, 10 years after she is still in court because he and his family make everything to make her life miserable.



Most wedding I went people didn't particulary care about decorations, there was no theme and coordination and most are still hapilly married!!



It's not the effort you put into decorations and coordination that counts, it's what you put into your life and the rest of marriage. As others said, decorations reflects what they like and tastes not anything else.
Reply:My wedding decorations are a mix of classy black, white, and "romantic rose red" and classic Mickey/Minnie (tastefully done, not little kid's birthday party.)



I think it does reflect our relationship, that we are truly in love with each other, and while we're not the traditional flowers and candy type couple, we show our love in the things we do for each other. And we really are kids at heart and have a lot of fun together.



But as for their decorations and music... it doesn't necessarily reflect their relationship. But a flair for the dramatic seems to manifest itself in overly dramatic relationships.
Reply:Your brother's wedding expressed the couple's personalities. If they like heavy metal music/rap, they could naturally be more aggressive people, and that is the cause of their fighting.

My answer to your question is no. Personalities affect marriage; personalities also determine decorations at a wedding. Peripherally related things.
Reply:No, I do not think the decorations subconsciously affect the marriage.



I think people need to go into marriage thinking more objectively and less romantically. People get caught up in the romance . . . and then stop thinking objectively about whether or not their partner is (or will be) truly compatible for the long term.
Reply:This made me laugh



First, I think the only thing that can affect their marriage is their relationship.



Their flowers, choice of music, wedding bands, and decorations are not an omen for their happiness.



If they argue and fight all the time, then THAT might be a problem they should work though.
Reply:Absolutely NOT. There is no correlation between decorations at a wedding and how your marriage will be. Absolutely none.



It sounds like your brother had a very "alternative" type of reception. But, I'm sure there are others who have had alternative types of receptions and they are perfectly happy!
Reply:The decorations, themselves, don't reflect the marriage. The decorations reflect the tastes of the couple.



A couple who both prefer heavy metal music can have a loving and positive relationship. People who play gospel music could have a stormy relationship.
Reply:I don't think that matters. A lot of the time, couples will try to have a wedding theme depending on their tastes and preferences. Also the theme may reflect their personality, but the bottom line is the strength of the relationship between them that matters the most.
Reply:I really don't think so. I feel that the type of music, decorations, etc. reflect individual personality and taste, and a failing marriage reflects a couple's lack of communication, desire for each other, willingness to work together, etc.
Reply:The decorations reflect their preferences and tastes, not their souls. They are tempestuous people, maybe fighting is like foreplay to them. It has nothing to do with their wedding decorations.
Reply:No....but maybe it reflects their maturity level which could effect the marriage.
Reply:No, not at all. I think it shows what kind of tastes they have.
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