Is the only ways to show a woman you love her is with a ring and a wedding date?

My lady dump me because I did not show her a ring and a wedding date, she said it's too late after 7 long years. I been trying to make it up to her with small gesture like sending her flowers where she works but she only gets upset at me, saying that I am trying to claim her and not give her her space. I woke up early to make her coffe and meet her before she gets to work, where she parks her car. She says I am intruding in her life. Is there no chance to make this relationship work?
Is the only ways to show a woman you love her is with a ring and a wedding date?
For some women, yeah that's all that matters to them. Did you string her along with hopes of marriage b/c if you did then she has a right to be peeved. If she knew full well of your intentions prior to getting serious then she shouldn't be surprised.



In this day and age you think women would be smarter than this but they are not, they still want to get in debt for their ideal wedding and thousands of dollar ring and forget that marriage is about after the wedding and it's hard work and commitment. I have a $100 ring and a $2000 wedding and together 10 yrs.
Reply:A Ring and a wedding date don't make a relationship!It sounds like the issues go a little farther than her wanting to get married. You seem to try and do nice gestures for her, so not sure what the real problem is. All I can say is Good Luck!
Reply:No of course not, but sheesh, she had patience to have stayed with you too long as it was.

Most mature men would have committed LONG before this - and for you, it was too late. Leave her alone.
Reply:sounds like you love her but you are scared to take the finale step. and she is makeing you pay for it. maybe you should ask her to marry you and stay engaged for a year just to see how she changes then if its not for the better you have a whole year to make a dicision
Reply:Yes, get the ring and on your knees.
Reply:No it is not....but your "lady" apparently wanted to be married to you....and after 7 long years....she said enough was enough....in order for a relationship to work...you BOTH have to be on the same page.....If she wants marriage and you don't...then eventually she would leave the relationship...and she did....Give her space....you had your chance....
Reply:Seven years is a long time to be in a relationship and not have it move to a ring and marriage. What she is telling you here is she is not satisfied to remain. Evidently, you don't want marriage with her so you should stop trying to see her. Let her find someone to share her life with that would marry her. I would guess she would like a husband, home and family some day.
Reply:i think you need to give her her space,i don't know about guys but girls need stability,and she waited for you for 7 years,and the entire time you where together and you didn't ask her to marry you it was breaking her heart.maybe it is over,you'll have to ask her.

but i think it's too late now even if you are willing to marry her cuz it didn't come from your heart,it came after her leaving.

I'm saying this from agirls point of view.

if you really love her and really want to be with her,let her cool off and then beg for forgiveness.

i can imagine how stressed and depressed she is,if i dated a guy for one year and i ddnt see commitment,the relation ship wouldn't go any farther.

good luck,
Reply:She wants to get married. She wants that for her lifestyle. You apparently don't, or else you'd have married her by now. You both want different lives, and you both deserve to be happy. If you are not ever going to marry her then let her be free so she can find someone who will. You are then free to find a woman that doesn't want marriage, and you will be happy. It's like apples and oranges. She want's something you don't.
Reply:you need to get a wedding ring and ask her to marry you on one of your knees and find a day that you want to get married. Ask her out for dinner at a nice restaurant before dinner comes get up and walk up to her and get on one knee and ask her to marry you on a date you both can agree on. Do it or your going to lose her for good and you should of done this along time ago. I hope it works out for you because it did for me and my wife seven months ago as today. good luck.
Reply:She probably wanted you to piss or get off the pot! 7 years is a long time without a real commitment. Most women would at least like a ring, or hint of marriage for your future. Especially if it's a first marriage.
Reply:No, love is not about the ring or the wedding date. You show you love someone by putting their needs before yours. If their need is to get married then you do your best to full-fill that need. If you cannot full-fill that need then you should let her go if you love her, so she can find someone else that can. You are being selfish for holding on to her when you know very well you cannot give her what she needs. So if you ever go see her again, you better have that ring ready. If not, stay out of her way.
Reply:No offence, but you sound like a stalker, give her some breathing room, maybe she needs her space and time to think.

Have you considered her plans for the future? Maybe she wanted to be married with two kids by the age of 27, have a nice home and carry the last name of her "soul mate".



Consider how she must feel, seven years of her life wasted? I doubt it, she is probably feeling pressure from friends and family who think she needs to be in a committed relationship.



I personally don't know any woman who has been in a relationship for over 3 years that has not mentioned marriage. Marriage is like a promise that the other mate is going to be there for support and through the tough times. A boyfriend can pick up and leave anytime he gets ready to without any word.



Maybe you should think about that, 7 years is a long time to have invested in someone and you get nothing in return.



Let her breathe for a while, she will eventually come back and talk about the issue or just give her a call and talk calmly and with love....if you love her and tell her your fears of marriage or whatever it is that is holding you back from making that big commitment.



hope this helps!
Reply:What you will eventually learn in life is that it doesn't matter what you do a woman will never be happy. If you marry her there will always be something else until they drive you completely insane. Don't get married.