Ladies how would you show your husband you loved him?

I always compliment her,do things for her(buy flowers,offer too go places with her,help with kids and around the house) she doesnt work tell her I love her ,grab her bum when walking past,give her a kiss tease her and play try to spice things up send messages to her through the day with her very rarley does it come back she says she loves me I have told her this is their any suggestion to how to make her show more love and affection or am expecting too much
Ladies how would you show your husband you loved him?
When and if I ever get another husband this is how I show them-



I will wake up w/ him in the morning to have coffee w/ him b4 he goes to work. I will make his lunch. I will text him or call him at work just to tell him I'm thinking of him or that I love him. Sometimes I may be horny and text him some dirty words.



I will have dinner ready for him when he gets home. I don't expect much out of him when he gets home cuz he just worked all day. To just lay down on the couch next to him after dinner, maybe a lil fondling depending where the kids are. I am all prepared for sex come the night or actually whenever his heart desires.



I will respect him, appreciate what he does for his family. I am a touchy feely kinda person so alot of my love will be shown thru my hands as well. I love to kiss so lil kisses as u may be walking by.
Reply:I'm a little confused? Is this the husband asking or the wife?

If this is the wife, we are to respect our husbands and The man is to love his wife unconditionally... Affection should never be forced it comes from the heart some people are more affectionate than others... Just give her a little space for now... and see what happens... Stop bugging her... maybe your trying to hard and your going to push her right out the door into someone elses arms... Relax send her things only on special day... She know you love her... just chill for a while
Reply:SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE SMOTHERING HER TO DEATH WITH AFFECTION

back off and let her breath a little you are not a dog who needs scratched all the time
Reply:You are trying too hard.



You are doing very well with the things you are doing .. excellent, in fact ... however, she may be taking you for granted. This happens with anyone who has an abundance of things happen to them.



Just for now ... just for awhile ... try this.



STOP. Just back-off for awhile. She may try to push your buttons again - and may ask what is wrong with you -- but just sweetly reply that nothing is wrong.



Continue for awhile on the backing off. She may start to miss you - and miss all of these wonderful things which you do for her ... and she may start coming your way.



It may take awhile to let it set-in ... but eventually she will notice it. Don't give in ... just be sweet - but not doing all the usual incredible things.



Give it enough time to work for you.



Best wishes ... and ... good luck.
Reply:Both of you Read This Book:::



*THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES* by Gary Champan



Its a quick read, and trust me,

Everyone's love language is Completely Different!



You might be giving her flowers when she Really wants you to help her with dishes, or even take a short walk through a park. Just read it, you'll see, she'll start speaking your love language back in no time. Good luck!



(haha, I didn't even realise the comment above mine recommended the exact same book, See! Its really That Good!)
Reply:I think that the reason there are so many problems in marriages (and relationships in general) is because there are two very different personalities involved. Granted, a couple might have many similar traits and interests, they are still two very distinct people. Perhaps, your wife just has her way of showing her love. My husband shows me his love my being a supporter in my life and always trying to find ways to make my life easier-I show him I love him by being there for him and making his life easier. I think that you should see what your wife is doing that makes you happy-chances are that is how she is showing you she loves you.
Reply:Well sometimes some people have a hard time showing their affection. I come from a very unaffectionate family and hard for me to show my love except maybe to my nieces and nephews and cats. I've been hurt alot and so I don't show love much so maybe your wife just isn't affectionate. But if she is honest and true and faithful and is a good wife do you have to be smoothered to death with kisses and I love you's all the time?
Reply:your not pleasing her sexually. She's faking it..most of the time...Sorry. If her mind was blown a little more often you wouldnt be questioning anything. Shed smile alot more.
Reply:some people show their love in a strange way to where you really don't understand it at all, but just keep doing what you're doing and maybe she come around i'm sure she loves you .
Reply:I think that she probably is showing you she loves you in her own way. You have to understand how she shows she loves you. For example, I like to spend time with my husband, and I like to buy him cards or little gifts once in a while to show him I was thinking about him. He, on the other hand, shows me that he loves me by doing things around the house, telling me I'm beautiful, and doing the old butt grab you describe above! I think if you think about it, you will find that she is showing you that she loves you, in her own way.
Reply:When you overdo such a thing, she may get suspicious, that you are hiding something, by showering her with all this. Either you are having an affair and feeling guilty about it.

If I were your wife, I will feel irritated by all these.
Reply:I highly recommend that you purchase the book, "The Five Love Languages." This excellent in helping you understand yourself and your partner's love language, because we all give and receive love differently at times. Its not a long book so don't worry, but it's quality. And if you want a deep read I recommend, "Getting the Love you Want" ...its really interesting and will give you an in depth look at what makes you, you.



You sound like a really caring and loving husband....you said you've talked with her...maybe try it again. what was her response to you when you said something to her...she's either cold-hearted and not interested or you both are on a different page and communicating through different love languages. Read the book, then go from there. It might help.