How do I get my boyfriend to show me he cares about me with his actions not just his words.?

My boyfriend and I broke up a few days ago. He constantly tells me I complain to much and the only thing I ever complain about is him not showing me he cares. We live an hour away from each other and have been together for about 6 months. I expect a flower or a card every once in a while. Maybe for him to show up unexpectedly or do anything spontaneous. I have done that several times for him and still nothing. How do I make this man give a crap. He tells me how he feels, but he's so lazy when it comes to actually showing he cares. I feel I have done so much to show him I love him...actually show him not just say it, but he can't do anything. Am I wasting my time? The problem is we have so much fun together, have great sex and I love him more than anything. All I want is a damn card or flower every once in a while..why is that such a problem??
How do I get my boyfriend to show me he cares about me with his actions not just his words.?
I don't know, I have the opposite problem...my man shows me he cares by listening to me, calling, helping me fix my car, taking me to dinner and cuddling with me, but won't tell me he loves me! Either way it is frustrating!
Reply:accept that hes not good at showing it.. dont expect a card... or anything so you dont get disappointed

hes not gunna change so accept him or move on

i used to be the same as you.. i would always complain that my bf never ever got me flowers... or anything.. but then i realized that i dont care about those material things.. i mean they are nice but thats not why Im with him.. all i want is to spend time with him and love him... thats what its all about... so for valentines day i didnt expect anything at all cause for every holiday i would get soOO disappointed that I start thinking that he doesnt care about me at all.. he didnt get me ANYTHING for christmas OR my birthday!

but then i starting not caring about gifts and i couldnt believe it

. he got me roses, lingerie, and a bunch other cute little things.. :) I think you just need to focus on all the great things he does for you. not the things he doesnt do.. thats what ive started doing and Im much happier and satisfied with our relationship now
Reply:Maybe he using you for sex... You sound kinda needy