How can I help her feel as beautiful as she is?

I adore my girlfriend above all things. She is so good to me in so many ways, and she's incredibly beautiful. I feel like the luckiest man alive whenever we're together. And I tell her all these things at every good opportunity. I show her in every way I know how: compliments, flowers, clothes, dancing, singing, cooking for her.....

But she is so insecure about her body. She nitpicks herself constantly, worrying about flaws that I didn't even know existed or things I actually find unique and charming about her.

She has a history of eating disorders (several years ago) but assures me that it's not a problem anymore. She did go through couseling for those and she hasn't given me any reason to believe she is harming her body any more. But the way she talks about herself, she still has a distorted self-image. And sometimes she won't let me touch her because she "feels gross". How can I help her overcome all this, to see in herself what I and all of her friends see?
How can I help her feel as beautiful as she is?
Awww, that's so sweet. It sounds like you're doing all the rigth things, so I don't know what else can be done for her. She has to accept herself for who she is. Maybe she should seek some counseling. It sounds like she has a history of self-loathing and the only person that can help her is herself, or a clinician. If you manage to convince her to see a therapist, make sure you maintain the same relationship dynamic and ensure that she knows you don't think she's crazy. I had a bf with an anger problem and when he finally realized he needed help he was very withdrawn from me because of the stigma associated with seeking mental health. Reassure her that talking to someone will help her feel better about herself, and that it won't change a thing between the two of you. Good luck!
Reply:Compliment her and send her tokens of affection.
Reply:You are pretty much doing all you can just keep it up and tell her the only way to let people see u as beautiful as you are is if you believe it yourself
Reply:aww... you're a rare guy, man... she's the luckiest girl



sorry to hear that and I don't have the answer for you but I'm writing this because I admire you, who loves your girl-friend so much that you have to do this.



I hope she can get over it, sorry that I can't help.
Reply:give her a mirror
Reply:tell her she is beutiful and make her fell like it or she wont belive you!!!
Reply:Awww, you are so sweet.

Well, of course every women finds things about themselves they would like to change...

but maybe you could tell her that she is wonderful just the way she is.... maybe sing to her on a date one night "I Love You Just The Way You Are" by Billy Joel.





Good Luck

XXXMel.Jo0
Reply:You aren't deficient in any way, remember that. This woman needs psychological assistance. Do not allow yourself, or her to fall into denial. Her mental self-image in unhealthy and must be addressed by a professional asap. This sort of behavior can easily lead to many dangerous things, including eventual suicide. Please get her to get some help now!
Reply:Just tell her...babe i love you and you are my world.... treat her to a nice home cooked dinner and just treat her like a godess!
Reply:I really dont think that there is anything YOU can do differently. Its all in her head, just keep doing what you have been doing. you sound like a wonderful boyfriend.
Reply:That's a problem between her and herself. Sometimes trying to encourage her might make it worse. But yes, continue to do the everyday things that you do because you seem like a great man. But her insecurity that's between her so you can let her deal with it. But if she begins to harm herself again and your sure she is doing it and you are not just suspecting it then you might have to take action like taking her to therapy. But right now she is in a good posisition, although not the best that she could be in. Improving ones' self image comes from within, so she might realize it for herself and no one can persuade her.
Reply:She probably needs therapy. It's very difficult to get someone to feel beautiful if he/she is convinced otherwise.
Reply:Bro, If I didn't know any better, I'd say I was the one who posted the above question. You've described my ex-wife and I exactly as we were earlier in our relationship. She needs help, man. No amount of flowers, compliments, conversations or anything will help her. She is very insecure about herself and her body and probably always will be. Just know this: she does appreciate everything you do for her. I promise.
Reply:It won't be anything you tell her or do for her, it's something she has to accept and get over herself. I'd advise you send her for professional help or have her read books on self-esteem and image. I knew someone who had the same problem and eventually they learn it's no big deal and get over it. But it will take time...
Reply:Maybe she needs to see a counselor again...seriously....you never really get over an eating disorder.....there is always that voice in the back of your head, and maybe she's falling for it again.Therefore another eating disorder msay return....the worst thing you can do for her though, is put her on some meds.
Reply:Honestly, when she feels gross, just leave her alone. Your constant doting on her, "dancing and singing for her" - which sounds pretty strange by the way!, all the flowers, cooking, etc, are probably pretty annoying sometimes.

It sounds like she has worked really hard to overcome her eating disorder, and she's not perfect, so she may always have time when she feels less than beautiful, like ALL women do.

Give her some space, you sound like a very smothering person. Just keep telling her she's pretty and then back off on the dancing and singing!