A "just because" flowers show up at your home or work from someone you have been seeing. You both are enjoying each other and the "passion" is doing well. Soooo, your favorite flowers would be???
Ladies%26gt;%26gt; Roses, Carnations, or Lillies ??
A mixture of Red roses and white calla lillies. If you're not in a relationship and just recently met this girl, pinkish tiger lilies or pink or white peonies...would be more appropriate.
Any girl is going to appreciate any kind of flower (except for maybe carnations)
Reply:Lillies
Reply:Yellow roses not mixed coloured roses.
Reply:I like all of them. I think that roses should be used for special events. And the other two would be" just because" flowers. To me roses are about the love, and if they are given all of the time, i feel that it tends to ruin the feelings. the other two, are beautiful and could be given every day. they both have a scent about them. I am not sure of what it is but, it kind of reminds me of a spice.
Reply:get them all.........it would be very nice
Reply:Red roses are common. I would do yellow or pink roses or a mix of different flowers. Carnations remind me of the prom days....no thanks.
Reply:white roses
Reply:Roses and Orchids with Babybreath
Reply:Lilies or Roses. Carnations remind me of death.
Reply:Roses or carnations - definitely no t lilies.
Lilies have pollen that is poisonous to animals.
Lilies have pollen that stains fabtic.
Lilies are synonamous with death.
Reply:roses definately.
Reply:Lilies...they are sweet and simple plus they are my fave flower!
=]
Reply:Orchids preferably pink ;)
Heres a star!
Reply:roses all the way! roses are the flowers that represent love.
Reply:tulips
Reply:If you are passionate I wouldn't say carnations...they just seem cheap. Roses are typical. Lilies are beautiful, interesting and they smell incredible (get the Stargazer ones for the wonderful smell).
Reply:chocolates %26amp; ROSES :)
Reply:roses....all diff colors....ur choice
Reply:Roses
Reply:yellow and red roses.
or white and red.
they both go really well together and they're pretty.
Reply:What about tulips? You didn't mention them..
If I had to pick out of those three - lillies..everyone does the rose thing, it's not original. Carnations remind me of funerals (sorry)
Reply:roses or carnations or both together.
Reply:LILLIES!!!!!!!!!
Reply:Lillies remind me of death and funerals...
A mix of colorful roses is always nice, if it is early in the relationship avoid the traditional reds..
Something realy cool would be one of the new edible arrangements that everyone at her work gets to enjoy (if she shares)...These are fruit baskets with floral shapes, dipped in chocolate and yummy as hell. You can check them out at www.ediblearrangements.com
one of my co-workers received one of these and it was awesome. I have since bought quite a few to send. The fruit is so darn good.
Reply:lilies, they make you think that the person that brought them really cares and put some thought in it, carnations suck, and roses, you can pick them up off of any street corner
Reply:Lillies. It's away from the norm of roses and carnations are just a friendship thing.
Reply:A mixture of them... It would be nice
Reply:Roses are so romantic and most girls love them!
Reply:roses are pretty, but I think getting any kind of flowers would be nice
Reply:roses get cliche... i've always loved lillies =)
Reply:the ladies hate you man there not gonna answer....
Wednesday, February 15, 2012
What to say when someone you know has suffered a miscarriage..?
Recently someone decided that it would be fun to poke mockery (on Yahoo Answers) of the death of our son, Zachary that we tragically lost on Aug. 2, 2006 (second trimester loss), to see the post go here http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...
I thought it would be important to post what to say to someone who has endured the pain of a miscarriage..
Things you should say
Do call her and tell her you are sorry for her loss.
Do send her a card or flowers to show you care
Do let her talk as much as she needs to or wants to.
Do give her a hug to let her know you care.
Do offer to help with housework, babysitting or other things that she may not feel up to doing.
Do acknowledge her baby.
It is okay to say I don’t know what to say or I don’t know how to help.
Do call and check up on her. The pain does not go away in a couple days.
So with that posted what else do you think would be appropiate?
What to say when someone you know has suffered a miscarriage..?
Act like she just had a baby and lost it at birth, because in many ways, she did.
Her body is going thru hormone withdrawals (from a pregnant state to a "normal" state) and we all know how hormones alone can make someone emotional.
Plus, she just lost her child, she's afraid, what will happen NEXT TIME?
Can I chance it?
Will it be fair to take the chance?
Some women won't want to talk yet, so just "be there" as "moral support." Say, make dinner and take over or have two or three friends who can pick days to do it for say a week or two, not that she can't, but to let her know your THERE. Not being alone in the world when grieving is so important, even if you don't use them.
Drop her a note in the mail or a "sunny card." Even if she lives in town.
In other words, just be a true friend.
(I have 6 sisters, one alone had 3 miscarriages before having her first of 2 children).
Reply:First off, I would like to say that I am sorry for your loss. It is hard to say anything. A friend of mine lost her baby and we were pregnant at the same time (she was further along) and I didnt know what to say, I felt uncomftorable talking about my pregnancy because I didnt want to make her sad. I just let her know that I was always there for her. I dont see how anyone could think it is funny. I also think that if someone needs space and doesnt want to talk about it, you shouldnt push it. Just let them know that you will be there when they are ready.
Reply:sometimes the best thing to say is nothing.If the person is hurting and reacting badly,it's best to just listen.You may say exactly what they do not want to hear and this is very bad.Just give hugs but don't say anything.
Reply:Sometimes the best thing to do is not to say much of anything, except that you are there for the family as a friend to talk or to do whatever else is needed. I'm sure they don't want your sympathy or you telling them that you're sorry. It's just like reliving it all over again whenever someone says something to you about it. I personally think it would just be harder to hear people come up to me and tell me that they were sorry or that it's ok because you can have another child (which someone did to a friend of mine). I know it will never truly go away and get better and no future child can ever replace the one you lost. It's just nice to have friends that will help you out and maybe help you get your mind off of things, at least for a little while.
Reply:Say "Better luck next time!"
Reply:Ask her out for coffee once she is feeling up to it.
Ask her if she would like to be around your kids or if it's too painful but don't ask her to babysit.
If you share her faith, encourage her to come to services and pray with her privately.
If you do not share her faith, you may still pray but do not mention it to her. This is not the time to witness.
If you have been through a similar experience, let her know but don't dwell on your own pain. It's her turn to grieve.
Let her yell at you if she needs to; anger is normal and she has nowhere to go with it.
Give her the freedom to grieve in her own way. Some women will cry a lot, others will become glued to the tv.
Don't let yourself drift away from her. She will likely withdraw but it's when she needs friends the most.
All these are written for the mother but it is important to realize that the father is grieving as well.
Reply:i totaly agree with you, i had a miscarriage and i know how devastating it is, and im sorry about your loss
Reply:Thank you so much for the info. It must be terrible for you right now. I have a 21 mo son, and I honestly don't know how I would cope if anything ever happened to him. I am truly sad for you, and am grateful to Heaven that you are finding ways to manage your grief that also help others understand how this affects a woman. God bless you in your mourning, and God keep your beautiful Zachary safe till you see him again in Heaven.
Reply:I think you said it very well and I'm deeply sorry for your loss. You have my deepest empathy. Read below link so you'll know my prayers are truly with you.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...
Reply:You don't have to say anything, You just have to be there.
Reply:I am sorry for both of your losses
.There is not much more to say.
Your thoughtfulness and support would be the best thing for her
Reply:I lost my husband 2 weeks ago. There is nothing anybody can say that will make you feel better. People make offers to help if you need it, but you probably don't know what anybody could do. For me, it is easier when people say, "What are you doing?" instead of "How". A simple "I'm sorry for your loss" and a great big hug. And, keep calling to check on them, don't forget them after a couple of weeks. At first, time makes it harder not easier.
Reply:12 yrs ago, I suffered a miscarriage...I was 14 wks at that point....it took me a while to get over it, but I was able to let go....I became pregnant again shortly after that....I was able to carry it for 19 wks %26amp; lost that one as well....I got pregnant again a few months later %26amp; lost my twin girls....this time I was 26 wks along. I was devestated. Stephany %26amp; Kalie were supposed to be here with me....
I had a good support system...My Ex Husband was there for me...as well as..my Family...%26amp; a few friends....BUT...mentally I wasnt there....I lost what I considered to be the only chance I was ever going to have to be a Mother. I locked myself into my room %26amp;....stopped talking to friends %26amp; wouldnt even communicate with my Ex Husband...I thought it was my fault.
I gave birth to 2 stillborn baby girls...I blamed myself although I did nothing that caused it....Apperantly, both girls were Downs Syndrome babies, which doesnt matter to me...they are my girls.
Alot of people frown upon the fact that 3 wks after I was at a BBQ at a friends house....alot of that time was spent playing the "what if" game.....which kind of helped.....
The Dr. gave me the go ahead to start having relations with my Ex Husband again. %26amp; what do you know....8 wks later...I find I am pregnant again. OMG!....I did EVERYTHING to try to keep this child....but, I lost YET another one at 10 wks. I have had to go to counseling, went to support groups %26amp; went into my own self...I felt like such a failure......
It took another a few months before I would allow my Ex Husband to look at me naked, much less actually touch me...but...soon afterwards...I found out I was pregnant again....I was put into bed %26amp; spent most of the time in the Hospital at the High Risk Pregnancy Center....BUT 9 mo's later....my son, who is now 8.....came screaming into this world on Feb. 7,1998......he was weighed in at 7lbs 4 ozs....%26amp; was healthy........
When he was 7 mo's old.....I found out I was pregnant again....OMG!.....there again....I was put into bed....stayed off %26amp; on at the HRPC....%26amp; gave birth to a baby girl by emergency C-section...due to the cord wrapping around her throat %26amp; her heart rate dropping.....she was a month early, but she weighed in at 6lbs 2 ozs.....she was born June 14,1999....she is now 7.
I have been through ALOT with my daughter since her birth....she was dianosed with Non Hodgkins Lymphomia when she was 13 mo's old...%26amp; I thought for sure that I was going to have another taken from me....but she is in remission now....
I guess what I am trying to say....alot of people grieve in different ways.....when my Uncle (who was like a Father to me) died...I went out that night %26amp; got drunk....drinking one for him...because that is what him %26amp; I did together....hung out %26amp; drank a few beers...went dancing....
I think the woman who lost her child found some comfort being online with some people who could give her some kind words...trust me....we feel like we are in this alone...even though others suffered the loss as well.....I dont for being on here...in fact...I applaud her....she is strong %26amp; will get through this....
All the things that have gone in my life started taking a toll in my Marriage %26amp; I lost a few friends, but now I have 2 beautiful kids...who are my greatest accomplishments......
Yes, life does go on....but there will always be that empty spot...I still grieve for the babies I lost....I grieve for Stephany %26amp; Kalie, but I have Kevin %26amp; Heatherly that I have to live for....
Leave the poor woman alone %26amp; allow her to get through her pain the way she needs too....wether be online....or locked in her room....or whatever makes her not hurt....let her heal....
Reply:I am sorry for your loss and people are just evil sometimes!! I think your suggestions are appropriate and simple enough for anyone with a heart and half a brain to accomplish! Just say SOMETHING even if it is "I don't know what to say...but I am here for you if you need someone to talk to or to just be there for you" rather than saying nothing at all.
At the same time...not everyone handles a miscarriage the same way. Grief is a process that no two people have the same response to. You find comfort through talking about it...some people do not. Some people heal by going through the entire process...some people do not. Regardless, I think the number one thing someone needs to understand is that grief, whichever way you decide to handle it, can not be deemed either a "good way" or a "bad way" of handling it. There is no manual of how to handle grief and no one can judge someone else for the way they choose to handle it.
Also, whenever ANYONE loses ANYBODY people have a tendency to become uncomfortable around them. They think they'll say the wrong thing, they don't know how to react and they just get awkward and uncomfortable around you...that is always my problem. When someone has a miscarriage a huge issue is that many people believe "Well you didn't even KNOW the child, why be so upset?" Again, grief is a unique process. It doesn't matter what the loss is, how significant or insignificant someone else deems it to be...you FEEL the loss and that is what matters.
When I had my first miscarriage my very good friend and I found out we were pregnant at the same time. She was beside herself and felt awkward and awful around me all the time. She never stopped talking to me...but it was just there all the time. I ended up feeling bad for HER for feeling bad for ME and felt terrible that she felt she should have to diminish her own excitement at her child's birth. Whereas, some people WOULD be upset at someone else getting to have their child while you are grieving for a lost child.
Again, everyone handles it differently. There are no universal responses or reactions to a loss of anything important to someone.
Reply:If you don't succeed, try try again!!
Reply:My cousin suffered one too. I didnt really know what to say at first, but when she reached out to me, I just allowed her to talk as much as she needed to, cry as much as she needed to, talk about her connection to the baby as much as she needed to. I accompanied her to her favourite places, and just did as much as I could to comfort her. Supporting someone who's suffered a miscarriage is basically forming a friendship. When friends reach out to friends, everything else comes naturally.
Reply:do tell her that its her destiny to have lost a son. then tell her that its really the painful side of life that you have to endure or pass. but you cant just say that pass. you have to pass that trial that in the end, you will learn a lesson and be a stronger woman in the coming trials.
Reply:I'm so sorry! The cruelty of some people is beyond belief. My heart goes out to you for your loss. A miscarriage is the ripping out of a piece of your heart, along with your dreams and hopes for the future.
When I had mine, I fell in on myself for awhile and saw the world through a blur. I turned to my gods and goddesses at that time. They lent me strength and pulled me together, because I was in no shape to do it myself. My bf of many years was beside himself with grief, and we clung together through it all.
Stay strong for each other. Don't forget to hold each other, tell each other how much you love each other, and do little things for one another.
Those who have not gone through this painful experience do not know the grief and anguish you go through.
It is alright to grieve.It is alright to have fits of anger and depression.
While some people are very cruel, there are those of us who know how you feel and will keep you in our thoughts, prayers and meditations, hoping for your healing.
The pain does not go away. Even after years, it is still there, but it becomes bearable.
Be strong. Blessings to both of you.
Reply:I am sorry for your loss. I am 6 months pregnant. I had friend who suffered a miscarriage earlier this year. It was so depressing b/c she couldn't tell her mother that she was pregnant b/c her mom didn't like her boyfriend. I took her to the hospital and stayed w/her until she was taken to her room in the hospital for the night. The sad thing is our kids would have been a couple of months apart. I didn't want to tell her I was pregnant b/c I thought I was being mean b/c I found out that I was pregnant a couple of months later after she miscarried. You're a strong woman. I talked to friends who had more than one miscarriage and now have 3 kids. You'll be a mother. Your child was a blessing. I wouldn't say anything to that person who posted that b/c some people on here don't have a heart. I asked a question about low income housing and someone made a smart comment and said I should have been on birth control. I deleted the question b/c I thought it was rude. So just overlook ignorant people. Pray and keep the faith. I'm sorry if I said too much I was upset that someone would post a question like that. Well hope this will help, I will keep you in my prayers.
rimmel
I thought it would be important to post what to say to someone who has endured the pain of a miscarriage..
Things you should say
Do call her and tell her you are sorry for her loss.
Do send her a card or flowers to show you care
Do let her talk as much as she needs to or wants to.
Do give her a hug to let her know you care.
Do offer to help with housework, babysitting or other things that she may not feel up to doing.
Do acknowledge her baby.
It is okay to say I don’t know what to say or I don’t know how to help.
Do call and check up on her. The pain does not go away in a couple days.
So with that posted what else do you think would be appropiate?
What to say when someone you know has suffered a miscarriage..?
Act like she just had a baby and lost it at birth, because in many ways, she did.
Her body is going thru hormone withdrawals (from a pregnant state to a "normal" state) and we all know how hormones alone can make someone emotional.
Plus, she just lost her child, she's afraid, what will happen NEXT TIME?
Can I chance it?
Will it be fair to take the chance?
Some women won't want to talk yet, so just "be there" as "moral support." Say, make dinner and take over or have two or three friends who can pick days to do it for say a week or two, not that she can't, but to let her know your THERE. Not being alone in the world when grieving is so important, even if you don't use them.
Drop her a note in the mail or a "sunny card." Even if she lives in town.
In other words, just be a true friend.
(I have 6 sisters, one alone had 3 miscarriages before having her first of 2 children).
Reply:First off, I would like to say that I am sorry for your loss. It is hard to say anything. A friend of mine lost her baby and we were pregnant at the same time (she was further along) and I didnt know what to say, I felt uncomftorable talking about my pregnancy because I didnt want to make her sad. I just let her know that I was always there for her. I dont see how anyone could think it is funny. I also think that if someone needs space and doesnt want to talk about it, you shouldnt push it. Just let them know that you will be there when they are ready.
Reply:sometimes the best thing to say is nothing.If the person is hurting and reacting badly,it's best to just listen.You may say exactly what they do not want to hear and this is very bad.Just give hugs but don't say anything.
Reply:Sometimes the best thing to do is not to say much of anything, except that you are there for the family as a friend to talk or to do whatever else is needed. I'm sure they don't want your sympathy or you telling them that you're sorry. It's just like reliving it all over again whenever someone says something to you about it. I personally think it would just be harder to hear people come up to me and tell me that they were sorry or that it's ok because you can have another child (which someone did to a friend of mine). I know it will never truly go away and get better and no future child can ever replace the one you lost. It's just nice to have friends that will help you out and maybe help you get your mind off of things, at least for a little while.
Reply:Say "Better luck next time!"
Reply:Ask her out for coffee once she is feeling up to it.
Ask her if she would like to be around your kids or if it's too painful but don't ask her to babysit.
If you share her faith, encourage her to come to services and pray with her privately.
If you do not share her faith, you may still pray but do not mention it to her. This is not the time to witness.
If you have been through a similar experience, let her know but don't dwell on your own pain. It's her turn to grieve.
Let her yell at you if she needs to; anger is normal and she has nowhere to go with it.
Give her the freedom to grieve in her own way. Some women will cry a lot, others will become glued to the tv.
Don't let yourself drift away from her. She will likely withdraw but it's when she needs friends the most.
All these are written for the mother but it is important to realize that the father is grieving as well.
Reply:i totaly agree with you, i had a miscarriage and i know how devastating it is, and im sorry about your loss
Reply:Thank you so much for the info. It must be terrible for you right now. I have a 21 mo son, and I honestly don't know how I would cope if anything ever happened to him. I am truly sad for you, and am grateful to Heaven that you are finding ways to manage your grief that also help others understand how this affects a woman. God bless you in your mourning, and God keep your beautiful Zachary safe till you see him again in Heaven.
Reply:I think you said it very well and I'm deeply sorry for your loss. You have my deepest empathy. Read below link so you'll know my prayers are truly with you.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...
Reply:You don't have to say anything, You just have to be there.
Reply:I am sorry for both of your losses
.There is not much more to say.
Your thoughtfulness and support would be the best thing for her
Reply:I lost my husband 2 weeks ago. There is nothing anybody can say that will make you feel better. People make offers to help if you need it, but you probably don't know what anybody could do. For me, it is easier when people say, "What are you doing?" instead of "How". A simple "I'm sorry for your loss" and a great big hug. And, keep calling to check on them, don't forget them after a couple of weeks. At first, time makes it harder not easier.
Reply:12 yrs ago, I suffered a miscarriage...I was 14 wks at that point....it took me a while to get over it, but I was able to let go....I became pregnant again shortly after that....I was able to carry it for 19 wks %26amp; lost that one as well....I got pregnant again a few months later %26amp; lost my twin girls....this time I was 26 wks along. I was devestated. Stephany %26amp; Kalie were supposed to be here with me....
I had a good support system...My Ex Husband was there for me...as well as..my Family...%26amp; a few friends....BUT...mentally I wasnt there....I lost what I considered to be the only chance I was ever going to have to be a Mother. I locked myself into my room %26amp;....stopped talking to friends %26amp; wouldnt even communicate with my Ex Husband...I thought it was my fault.
I gave birth to 2 stillborn baby girls...I blamed myself although I did nothing that caused it....Apperantly, both girls were Downs Syndrome babies, which doesnt matter to me...they are my girls.
Alot of people frown upon the fact that 3 wks after I was at a BBQ at a friends house....alot of that time was spent playing the "what if" game.....which kind of helped.....
The Dr. gave me the go ahead to start having relations with my Ex Husband again. %26amp; what do you know....8 wks later...I find I am pregnant again. OMG!....I did EVERYTHING to try to keep this child....but, I lost YET another one at 10 wks. I have had to go to counseling, went to support groups %26amp; went into my own self...I felt like such a failure......
It took another a few months before I would allow my Ex Husband to look at me naked, much less actually touch me...but...soon afterwards...I found out I was pregnant again....I was put into bed %26amp; spent most of the time in the Hospital at the High Risk Pregnancy Center....BUT 9 mo's later....my son, who is now 8.....came screaming into this world on Feb. 7,1998......he was weighed in at 7lbs 4 ozs....%26amp; was healthy........
When he was 7 mo's old.....I found out I was pregnant again....OMG!.....there again....I was put into bed....stayed off %26amp; on at the HRPC....%26amp; gave birth to a baby girl by emergency C-section...due to the cord wrapping around her throat %26amp; her heart rate dropping.....she was a month early, but she weighed in at 6lbs 2 ozs.....she was born June 14,1999....she is now 7.
I have been through ALOT with my daughter since her birth....she was dianosed with Non Hodgkins Lymphomia when she was 13 mo's old...%26amp; I thought for sure that I was going to have another taken from me....but she is in remission now....
I guess what I am trying to say....alot of people grieve in different ways.....when my Uncle (who was like a Father to me) died...I went out that night %26amp; got drunk....drinking one for him...because that is what him %26amp; I did together....hung out %26amp; drank a few beers...went dancing....
I think the woman who lost her child found some comfort being online with some people who could give her some kind words...trust me....we feel like we are in this alone...even though others suffered the loss as well.....I dont for being on here...in fact...I applaud her....she is strong %26amp; will get through this....
All the things that have gone in my life started taking a toll in my Marriage %26amp; I lost a few friends, but now I have 2 beautiful kids...who are my greatest accomplishments......
Yes, life does go on....but there will always be that empty spot...I still grieve for the babies I lost....I grieve for Stephany %26amp; Kalie, but I have Kevin %26amp; Heatherly that I have to live for....
Leave the poor woman alone %26amp; allow her to get through her pain the way she needs too....wether be online....or locked in her room....or whatever makes her not hurt....let her heal....
Reply:I am sorry for your loss and people are just evil sometimes!! I think your suggestions are appropriate and simple enough for anyone with a heart and half a brain to accomplish! Just say SOMETHING even if it is "I don't know what to say...but I am here for you if you need someone to talk to or to just be there for you" rather than saying nothing at all.
At the same time...not everyone handles a miscarriage the same way. Grief is a process that no two people have the same response to. You find comfort through talking about it...some people do not. Some people heal by going through the entire process...some people do not. Regardless, I think the number one thing someone needs to understand is that grief, whichever way you decide to handle it, can not be deemed either a "good way" or a "bad way" of handling it. There is no manual of how to handle grief and no one can judge someone else for the way they choose to handle it.
Also, whenever ANYONE loses ANYBODY people have a tendency to become uncomfortable around them. They think they'll say the wrong thing, they don't know how to react and they just get awkward and uncomfortable around you...that is always my problem. When someone has a miscarriage a huge issue is that many people believe "Well you didn't even KNOW the child, why be so upset?" Again, grief is a unique process. It doesn't matter what the loss is, how significant or insignificant someone else deems it to be...you FEEL the loss and that is what matters.
When I had my first miscarriage my very good friend and I found out we were pregnant at the same time. She was beside herself and felt awkward and awful around me all the time. She never stopped talking to me...but it was just there all the time. I ended up feeling bad for HER for feeling bad for ME and felt terrible that she felt she should have to diminish her own excitement at her child's birth. Whereas, some people WOULD be upset at someone else getting to have their child while you are grieving for a lost child.
Again, everyone handles it differently. There are no universal responses or reactions to a loss of anything important to someone.
Reply:If you don't succeed, try try again!!
Reply:My cousin suffered one too. I didnt really know what to say at first, but when she reached out to me, I just allowed her to talk as much as she needed to, cry as much as she needed to, talk about her connection to the baby as much as she needed to. I accompanied her to her favourite places, and just did as much as I could to comfort her. Supporting someone who's suffered a miscarriage is basically forming a friendship. When friends reach out to friends, everything else comes naturally.
Reply:do tell her that its her destiny to have lost a son. then tell her that its really the painful side of life that you have to endure or pass. but you cant just say that pass. you have to pass that trial that in the end, you will learn a lesson and be a stronger woman in the coming trials.
Reply:I'm so sorry! The cruelty of some people is beyond belief. My heart goes out to you for your loss. A miscarriage is the ripping out of a piece of your heart, along with your dreams and hopes for the future.
When I had mine, I fell in on myself for awhile and saw the world through a blur. I turned to my gods and goddesses at that time. They lent me strength and pulled me together, because I was in no shape to do it myself. My bf of many years was beside himself with grief, and we clung together through it all.
Stay strong for each other. Don't forget to hold each other, tell each other how much you love each other, and do little things for one another.
Those who have not gone through this painful experience do not know the grief and anguish you go through.
It is alright to grieve.It is alright to have fits of anger and depression.
While some people are very cruel, there are those of us who know how you feel and will keep you in our thoughts, prayers and meditations, hoping for your healing.
The pain does not go away. Even after years, it is still there, but it becomes bearable.
Be strong. Blessings to both of you.
Reply:I am sorry for your loss. I am 6 months pregnant. I had friend who suffered a miscarriage earlier this year. It was so depressing b/c she couldn't tell her mother that she was pregnant b/c her mom didn't like her boyfriend. I took her to the hospital and stayed w/her until she was taken to her room in the hospital for the night. The sad thing is our kids would have been a couple of months apart. I didn't want to tell her I was pregnant b/c I thought I was being mean b/c I found out that I was pregnant a couple of months later after she miscarried. You're a strong woman. I talked to friends who had more than one miscarriage and now have 3 kids. You'll be a mother. Your child was a blessing. I wouldn't say anything to that person who posted that b/c some people on here don't have a heart. I asked a question about low income housing and someone made a smart comment and said I should have been on birth control. I deleted the question b/c I thought it was rude. So just overlook ignorant people. Pray and keep the faith. I'm sorry if I said too much I was upset that someone would post a question like that. Well hope this will help, I will keep you in my prayers.
What Do I Do Now To Show Him I'm Sorry???
About 2 years ago, I took a vacation to Gatlinburg, TN.While there, I went into a specialty glass shop where I found these glass flower vases.They were shaped like iris flowers and were in all different colors.Purple is my favorite color, and this shop had one purple vase.I gladly bought it.I have never put any flowers in it, however, because I think that flowers mask the design of the vase and it looks better without.The vase has been displayed on my coffee table ever since.Earlier today, my boyfriend of 9 months was over with his friend.They were talking in my front room and as he turned to leave my bf's keyring chain brushed the coffee table, knocking my vase to the floor.It shattered completely and I lost it.I screamed at him and when he bent down to help me clean up,I told him to back up, that I would do it %26amp; that I didn't want/need his help.He then left and has since come back, but he won't talk to me.I feel bad now that I got mad, and told him I was sorry.What do I do now??
What Do I Do Now To Show Him I'm Sorry???
I recommend that you let him know how much this vase meant to you. And that you didn't mean to lash out on him but you felt hurt because the vase had so much sentimental value to you. Just sincerely apologize and ask what would he have done in your position, and let him know that your feelings overtook your thoughts.
Reply:not that huge of a deal...people flip out sometimes, just tell him you're sorry and do him or something that makes him happy......
rashes
What Do I Do Now To Show Him I'm Sorry???
I recommend that you let him know how much this vase meant to you. And that you didn't mean to lash out on him but you felt hurt because the vase had so much sentimental value to you. Just sincerely apologize and ask what would he have done in your position, and let him know that your feelings overtook your thoughts.
Reply:not that huge of a deal...people flip out sometimes, just tell him you're sorry and do him or something that makes him happy......
rashes
How to improve this yard at minimal cost, but achieve a dramatic uplift. ?
Here is the picture.
http://www.cgrer.uiowa.edu/people/tchai/...
My initial thought is having several (5-6) small bush plants ( Maybe Forsythia, I live in southeastern iowa, 5a zone,
http://www.naturehills.com/new/product/s...
any other suggestion?) lined up at the upper part. Then put mulches underneath.
Below that we have to buy more of the same jupiter (blue rug jupiter, I guess) to put in those red-mulch area. Then put in more of the same mulch.
In between those to regions, I am debating whether to have a layer of bricks instead of the black plastic seperating things. Not sure whether that will look good at all.
At the bottom there are two flower beds on both sides of the stair. I'll prune those invading jupiters to better define the upper line. Flowers came out last spring, along with weeds. I cannot tell what to keep until some flowers bloom. Do I better redo everyting, including the fabric?
How to improve this yard at minimal cost, but achieve a dramatic uplift. ?
Forget the fabric. use newspaper instead. It adds organic material to the soil and cost nothing. If you put down several layers, spray a little water over them to hold them in place and then put mulch on top, you will have a nice bed.
Forsythia tends to get large. Is that what you really want?
What if you paint the fence? You could paint flowers and a birdhouse, etc along this section and then plant. Or you could simply paint it a color that matches your house and then plant.
I am from Alabama and am not certain about which plants would do best in your area. Go to a couple of really good nurseries and look around, ask questions and get some ideas. You do not have to purchase anything.
I know you may have spring fever and want plant, and plant, and plant, but it might be best to wait until the fall. That way you can save the plants you want and the new plants will have the fall to become established.
Incorrect ly pruning junipers will do more damage than good...perhaps leaving them more an eyesore than an asset.
But, the best advice I can give you is to take the time to smell the flowers.
janis
Reply:What a great area! This is just my thoughts. I'd redo the whole area. Totally get rid of the juniper. It's old school. I think another tier in there with brick would be really nice. A couple nice tree's. I love the Japanese maples. Maybe throw in a couple of butterfly bushes. They are easy to deal with. You could even do grass up at the top if you can get a mower up there...then do the trees and some shade plants down below. That would make it look more park like. Have fun. :)
http://www.cgrer.uiowa.edu/people/tchai/...
My initial thought is having several (5-6) small bush plants ( Maybe Forsythia, I live in southeastern iowa, 5a zone,
http://www.naturehills.com/new/product/s...
any other suggestion?) lined up at the upper part. Then put mulches underneath.
Below that we have to buy more of the same jupiter (blue rug jupiter, I guess) to put in those red-mulch area. Then put in more of the same mulch.
In between those to regions, I am debating whether to have a layer of bricks instead of the black plastic seperating things. Not sure whether that will look good at all.
At the bottom there are two flower beds on both sides of the stair. I'll prune those invading jupiters to better define the upper line. Flowers came out last spring, along with weeds. I cannot tell what to keep until some flowers bloom. Do I better redo everyting, including the fabric?
How to improve this yard at minimal cost, but achieve a dramatic uplift. ?
Forget the fabric. use newspaper instead. It adds organic material to the soil and cost nothing. If you put down several layers, spray a little water over them to hold them in place and then put mulch on top, you will have a nice bed.
Forsythia tends to get large. Is that what you really want?
What if you paint the fence? You could paint flowers and a birdhouse, etc along this section and then plant. Or you could simply paint it a color that matches your house and then plant.
I am from Alabama and am not certain about which plants would do best in your area. Go to a couple of really good nurseries and look around, ask questions and get some ideas. You do not have to purchase anything.
I know you may have spring fever and want plant, and plant, and plant, but it might be best to wait until the fall. That way you can save the plants you want and the new plants will have the fall to become established.
Incorrect ly pruning junipers will do more damage than good...perhaps leaving them more an eyesore than an asset.
But, the best advice I can give you is to take the time to smell the flowers.
janis
Reply:What a great area! This is just my thoughts. I'd redo the whole area. Totally get rid of the juniper. It's old school. I think another tier in there with brick would be really nice. A couple nice tree's. I love the Japanese maples. Maybe throw in a couple of butterfly bushes. They are easy to deal with. You could even do grass up at the top if you can get a mower up there...then do the trees and some shade plants down below. That would make it look more park like. Have fun. :)
Why is so hard for guys to show their emotions?
My boyfriend and i have been together for a year now and we're doing great. We're both at home for summer break from school right now and he's 3 hours away from me. When I talk to him on the phone he always ends our calls with I love you, but when i tell him I miss him he ususally just says.. "I know" or something. Why do guys not respond when girls tell them they miss them or give them compliments? When we are together he takes me out, spends time with me, and buys me flowers and stuff.. but I wish he would just say some things more.
Why is so hard for guys to show their emotions?
Well he honestly sounds like a really nice guy so enjoy that! Just know, that a study was done(didn't find this out about guys until I was in my 30's,lol)that shows a male's brain and how there are pathways but they are short, not many are connected to emotions, expressing emotions. They feel what we feel just not able to express it. They can be taught however, but that's a different story!lol Anyways, a female's brain has several pathways, all interconnected, to emotions, feelings, thoughts, expression and therefore, it makes it so much easier for us as women to do that. So I say to people, God gave us the men for several reasons and women, he gave to us for friendship in the ability to listen, talk, feel, and talk some more!!! LOL My hubbie is so happy when I am on the phone yacking to one of my girlfriend's as he just doesn't always "get it", ya know what I mean? So don't try and change him, accept him for who he was and what he does! Enjoy each day!!!
Reply:Aww thanks for choosing mine as best answer. I am glad it was helpful, that's all I want to do. I hope things are working out well for you guys! You sound like you are making a great foundation..........enjoy! Report It
Reply:I know speaking from personal experience it is something that we males are just innately born with and are developed by other males in our lives. My wife says that I have to work on this area and I have but it really goes against my normal feelings just because I was was raised to not show emotion and be a man.
Reply:guys are like this. supressed from there emotions. boys are raised to be tough and not show. what he has said to you be happy he loves you
Reply:tough guy syndrom... thats why you love us right? because we can be strong and cool in any situation?
Reply:Lol, How come all Gals seems to complain about this, not All Guys Like Showing Gals dere feelings..Its Just A Normal fing, Da facing da Opposite at the moment, My So Called GF neva seems to tell me what she is finkin or her emotions, But dat didnt Stop me from not showin her what i fink.. With Tyme ur Bf will tell U what he feels about U or show U his emotions.. Just wait for da rite tyme for him to, He sends U flowers N stuff, dat clearly Shows he cares..Dey always say Actions speak betta Than words, SO maybe he is Showin U his emotions thru His actions... Just make sure U dont rush Him...
Reply:Guys are always afraid of commitments.Dat's y he's always blushing wen u say u miss him.
Reply:when guys show their emotion it makes guys (besides gays) feel like ******* b/c thts not wut guys do it would make them seem less tough
Reply:Well, becareful about saying "why is it so hard for guys to..." because that usually indicates that all males are like that. Some guys are like that. Usually the reason ends up being because they don't want to lose their "man power" or they don't want to look like a "sissy boy". Basically, society tells boys to act super strong and invincible. Some boys want to act all "macho".
Reply:Guys feel that they are Heros (Strong and Fighters)lol sorry guys!! he seems like a great guy to do all that stuff with you. so at least he says i know or something like that and not oh get the **** over it or something you know?
Reply:haha well im a girl and its hard for me to show my emotions. i cant help it. its just how my mind is built.
theres not a lot i can do about it
Reply:I'm in the same situation. Please tell me when you find out. It hurts, doesn't it?
Reply:It is a programmed response instilled within us as children. Our fathers teach us as children not to cry if we get hurt and to be tough. We are taught that men do not cry........we are taught not to show emotions. We are taught not to show our weaknesses and to not concede in confrontation. All programmed responses similar to teaching a dog to fetch.....after a while it becomes second nature to us and we sometimes forget to let the guard down for the ones we love. Ladies please forgive us......... It is just our programming. Good luck !
Reply:Because that's not who we are. We miss you but then if we said we did than you'd think we can't live without you
Reply:Well... when he says "i know" to your I miss you's he means he miss' you too... they say that to keep you in suspense so they know that every time you leave each other there will be a stomach ach of butterflys! don't worry he seems like a great guy and if he says he loves you then honey everything will be ok!
-hope i could help
Reply:Because they want 2 seem macho or manly and it kinda makes me think do they even care
Reply:you should be proud dear atleast HE SHOW YOU THAT HE LOVES YOU.....WHY ARE YOU GONNA BE HAPPY IF HE DO IT OTHER WAY AROUND???
Reply:The differences between men and women can be summerized by: men are Phisical Beings, and women are emotional beings. That said, men have emotions, and we feel things, but we don't express them per sei. There is a great book about this dillema called " Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" I don't completely agree with the way the author tells you to hadle some things, but it provides a lot of insight.
buckles
Why is so hard for guys to show their emotions?
Well he honestly sounds like a really nice guy so enjoy that! Just know, that a study was done(didn't find this out about guys until I was in my 30's,lol)that shows a male's brain and how there are pathways but they are short, not many are connected to emotions, expressing emotions. They feel what we feel just not able to express it. They can be taught however, but that's a different story!lol Anyways, a female's brain has several pathways, all interconnected, to emotions, feelings, thoughts, expression and therefore, it makes it so much easier for us as women to do that. So I say to people, God gave us the men for several reasons and women, he gave to us for friendship in the ability to listen, talk, feel, and talk some more!!! LOL My hubbie is so happy when I am on the phone yacking to one of my girlfriend's as he just doesn't always "get it", ya know what I mean? So don't try and change him, accept him for who he was and what he does! Enjoy each day!!!
Reply:Aww thanks for choosing mine as best answer. I am glad it was helpful, that's all I want to do. I hope things are working out well for you guys! You sound like you are making a great foundation..........enjoy! Report It
Reply:I know speaking from personal experience it is something that we males are just innately born with and are developed by other males in our lives. My wife says that I have to work on this area and I have but it really goes against my normal feelings just because I was was raised to not show emotion and be a man.
Reply:guys are like this. supressed from there emotions. boys are raised to be tough and not show. what he has said to you be happy he loves you
Reply:tough guy syndrom... thats why you love us right? because we can be strong and cool in any situation?
Reply:Lol, How come all Gals seems to complain about this, not All Guys Like Showing Gals dere feelings..Its Just A Normal fing, Da facing da Opposite at the moment, My So Called GF neva seems to tell me what she is finkin or her emotions, But dat didnt Stop me from not showin her what i fink.. With Tyme ur Bf will tell U what he feels about U or show U his emotions.. Just wait for da rite tyme for him to, He sends U flowers N stuff, dat clearly Shows he cares..Dey always say Actions speak betta Than words, SO maybe he is Showin U his emotions thru His actions... Just make sure U dont rush Him...
Reply:Guys are always afraid of commitments.Dat's y he's always blushing wen u say u miss him.
Reply:when guys show their emotion it makes guys (besides gays) feel like ******* b/c thts not wut guys do it would make them seem less tough
Reply:Well, becareful about saying "why is it so hard for guys to..." because that usually indicates that all males are like that. Some guys are like that. Usually the reason ends up being because they don't want to lose their "man power" or they don't want to look like a "sissy boy". Basically, society tells boys to act super strong and invincible. Some boys want to act all "macho".
Reply:Guys feel that they are Heros (Strong and Fighters)lol sorry guys!! he seems like a great guy to do all that stuff with you. so at least he says i know or something like that and not oh get the **** over it or something you know?
Reply:haha well im a girl and its hard for me to show my emotions. i cant help it. its just how my mind is built.
theres not a lot i can do about it
Reply:I'm in the same situation. Please tell me when you find out. It hurts, doesn't it?
Reply:It is a programmed response instilled within us as children. Our fathers teach us as children not to cry if we get hurt and to be tough. We are taught that men do not cry........we are taught not to show emotions. We are taught not to show our weaknesses and to not concede in confrontation. All programmed responses similar to teaching a dog to fetch.....after a while it becomes second nature to us and we sometimes forget to let the guard down for the ones we love. Ladies please forgive us......... It is just our programming. Good luck !
Reply:Because that's not who we are. We miss you but then if we said we did than you'd think we can't live without you
Reply:Well... when he says "i know" to your I miss you's he means he miss' you too... they say that to keep you in suspense so they know that every time you leave each other there will be a stomach ach of butterflys! don't worry he seems like a great guy and if he says he loves you then honey everything will be ok!
-hope i could help
Reply:Because they want 2 seem macho or manly and it kinda makes me think do they even care
Reply:you should be proud dear atleast HE SHOW YOU THAT HE LOVES YOU.....WHY ARE YOU GONNA BE HAPPY IF HE DO IT OTHER WAY AROUND???
Reply:The differences between men and women can be summerized by: men are Phisical Beings, and women are emotional beings. That said, men have emotions, and we feel things, but we don't express them per sei. There is a great book about this dillema called " Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" I don't completely agree with the way the author tells you to hadle some things, but it provides a lot of insight.
buckles
I need to know everything about Kurt Cobain.?
I need to know what Kurt's favorite food,drink,tv show,flower and anything else you might know. i already know when he was born, how old he was when he died,were he was born,his favorite movie and his favorite bands.
I need to know everything about Kurt Cobain.?
The best thing I know about Kurt Cobain that I like to share is that he was actually a feminist. In his diaries he writes that the most screwed up thing in our world is that little boys are taught not to cry and how the world would be a much better place if that was not so ---that men and boys should not be afraid of their feminine side like its a bad thing. I was really surprised when I read that. It made me like Kurt Cobain all the more.
Reply:Try looking on Kurt Cobain.com
Reply:Sorry sweetie, all I know is he's dead yet.
I need to know everything about Kurt Cobain.?
The best thing I know about Kurt Cobain that I like to share is that he was actually a feminist. In his diaries he writes that the most screwed up thing in our world is that little boys are taught not to cry and how the world would be a much better place if that was not so ---that men and boys should not be afraid of their feminine side like its a bad thing. I was really surprised when I read that. It made me like Kurt Cobain all the more.
Reply:Try looking on Kurt Cobain.com
Reply:Sorry sweetie, all I know is he's dead yet.
Boyz....what do you think it takes to get a girl like me...?
hint hint..dump the flowers
..show me the bentley...
Boyz....what do you think it takes to get a girl like me...?
1. Get over your self. 2 dont be materialistic, it makes you a shallow person.
Reply:Sounds like you just need cash not a man
Reply:$60.00
No, I can get an awesome/sexy stripper for under $60.00.
Reply:A contract at Vivid Video would catch a girl like you! Thanks for the 2 points!
Reply:a box of wine.
makeup artist
..show me the bentley...
Boyz....what do you think it takes to get a girl like me...?
1. Get over your self. 2 dont be materialistic, it makes you a shallow person.
Reply:Sounds like you just need cash not a man
Reply:$60.00
No, I can get an awesome/sexy stripper for under $60.00.
Reply:A contract at Vivid Video would catch a girl like you! Thanks for the 2 points!
Reply:a box of wine.
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